In order to prevent suicide, you need to identify whether a person actually has suicidal tendency. If you recognize any such behavior within the people around you, the situation calls for help. Where the causes of suicide trace back to depression, emotions such as disappointment, discontentment, hopelessness, helplessness, loneliness, feeling of being ignored etc, form the prime sources of negativity and confusion that are likely to prove fatal for the individual. Now, a person who is under depression or psychological disturbance exhibits these signs, which if captured and worked on, can save a life.
Tips to prevent suicide
- Examine the activities of people who are depressed
- Needless to mention, people who have attempted suicide in past are likely to attempt again
- You will be able to observe prominent behavioral changes in people who are at the risk of committing suicide
- People who hold on to the feeling of guilt, and feel hopeless and helpless in life are likely to attempt suicide
- Failures in life, and the feeling of being a burden to others also increase the urge to end lives
- Apparently, when people are indulged in drugs, alcohol, pills etc, they are at greater risk of committing suicide
Listen to their problems
Talk to such people outright, and try to understand their problems. It’s not necessary that you come up with resolutions, but such people are eventually longing for someone to listen to their problems. They need to feel that you understand their problems and the state of sorrow, and that you’re doing as much as you can to help them overcome the disturbing phase. Deep down, they just want to be loved and cared for. Love and compassion is the tonic that will help you prevent suicide.
Share stories of people whose problems are even worse
Those who get depressed often feel that they are going through the toughest problems that life has to offer. But, such presumptions are merely reflections of denial towards their experiences. You may come up with your own experiences of the past, or share the stories of people who have made it through problems that are significantly worse. You may also make up stories, which are likely to make them feel that their problems are comparatively lighter, and hence may help reduce the burden. Doing so will motivate them to think positively and at least try to resolve problematic situations, rather than worrying about them, which eventually doesn’t lead them anywhere near recovery.
Allow them to talk frankly
Create a friendly atmosphere during your conversation, so that the person can open up, and share their baggage with you. People who are prone to suicidal thoughts generally hesitate to express their concerns, but deep down, they need someone who will listen to their problems. You need to gain their trust, naturally. Psychological defenses can adopt ways that can seem alien to those who are unable to see what’s going on beneath that cloak. So, you need to try and see beyond what they speak, for no matter how efficiently one puts forth their opinions or concerns, there’s always some left for discovery. Knowing these roots of disturbance and empathizing accordingly will help you feel that they’re being loved and cared for. By acknowledging freedom of expression, you multiply your chances to prevent suicide.
Never discuss their issues with someone else, as it would mean sheer crossing of lines, from their perspective. If they notice that you are discussing their issues with someone else, they are likely to become disappointed or nervous, and will not trust anyone else. They may also start lying to you and hide things from you, which makes it even more difficult to help them in the situation.
Check their personal belongings
When you’re sure that the person in concern is not around, you may take some time to find out if they’re hiding any hazardous substances with them. Check their rooms, pockets, under their bed, and every possible corner of the house where things can be hidden. If you find anything that indicates that they’re actually planning to use them against themselves, then you need to ensure that they are not left alone in the room or in the house. Always be with them and monitor their activities carefully, but don’t dig deep into it, for it may come to their notice, the consequences of which can be fatal.
Take them for a picnic or places where they can enjoy and forget their sorrows for some time. Allow them to enjoy the natural beauty. Take them to places where they can come close to the nature and feel happy. Preventing suicide solely depends on your ability to share the load of the other person, and in turn help them create a space for exploring happiness. Remember that this is merely a phase, and you need to be patient in terms of confronting negativity. Yes, the enemy here is intangible, and the root cause lies embedded deep within the person’s mind, and the impurities cannot be shooed away easily. It can only be done if the person in concern is willing to let go of it.
Communication needs to be two-way, in order to become completed. We can do our best in transmitting our intentions right, but the other entity must receive the transmission, which is dependent on several parameters, and which can get distorted during the process of interpretation. Where wisdom comes with simplicity, we err because we think it as a complicated subject. The roots of sanity and balance are embedded deep within us, all we need to do is gain access to it, and inspire the others to do so. Where words come into picture, it marks the bottom-most form of communication, as we can evidently see that most communication happens through the transmission and receipt of intentions.
You need to be compassionate towards the person, ignoring any personality judgments that are likely to auto-populate. Your role here is to cure the situation, not act the moral judge. Depression might seem like a difficult subject to handle, but the cure lies within purity; and we, humans, are gifted with a conscience which shows us the right path, if accessed straight from within.